Can’t we all just get along??

Why would I write about this?  Well, I believe it’s an issue that needs to constantly be addressed.  This is directed more to all the real estate agents and brokers out there, however is also applicable to everyone.  First off let me put in the disclaimer that I am far from perfect but I am good at one thing, that is keeping the peace.  I bring this up because as the broker of Call Realty, I deal with other agents and brokers that can’t get along which requires my assistance to act as the mediator because they cannot work with each other.  As real agents, it is our job to protect our clients and make sure that we have done everything we can to achieve a smooth transaction.  Proper calm communication between all parties is a key element to a successful transaction.  It is sad that we let our anger, stress, and pride to take control over ourselves.  When this happens the chaos begins.  One agent may be upset about one thing and the other agent is upset about another.  Then the cycle begins in an endless circle of arguing and in the end, nothing is accomplished.  Actually, we now have successful accomplished anger, stress, and pride.  In all reality, was what we were upset about really a big deal?  I would say 99% of the time NO.  Unfortunately there will probably be times in your life that you will have to worry about certain events that take place in life, so don’t let these little things get to you…just work through them.  If we politely work together through the problems and issues that occur in a transaction, listening just as much as we calmly talk, I guarantee you that these issues will seem like the tiniest hurdle to jump over.  How do you think our clients are going to feel if we get all worked up when things don’t go as planned or as we hope they would go?  Most likely they are either going to be more stressed out or also get worked up.  That should never happen.

When I was a boy my father taught me one of the most important lessons in life.  He taught me something that a very well known business man taught him.  That is, “water off a duck’s back”.  An insult or criticism that rolls off you like water off a duck’s back.  Don’t invite confrontation just to convince yourself that you are right.  If you do this, you are only bringing yourself down to the bottom of the ethics scale.  Don’t let yourself be affected by insult, criticism, or when things don’t go as planned.  Don’t let it soak into you, just remember, water off a duck’s back.